Altruistic factor

Anti-goal: To avoid the other’s suffering.

Goal: To change/save someone emotionally fragile, violent, and not emotionally available.

Self: Altruistic self.

Other: problematic/fragile partner.

Deontological factor

Anti-goal: To avoid losing one’s own dignity/value/self-esteem.

Goal: To feel worthy or to retrieve one’s own value lost during the dysfunctional relationship with a denigrating, humiliating, and insulting partner.

Self: Deontological self.

Other: Humiliating partner.

Vulnerability factor

Anti-Goal: To avoid feeling unsafe and alone.

Goal: To feel secure, attached safe, and protected or retrieve one’s own sense of security lost during the relationship with an abusive, physically and sexually abusive partner.

Self: Vulnerable/traumatic self.

Other: Emotionally unavailable/abusing partner.

Conflict factor

Absent

Alternate

Akrasic