Altruistic factor | Anti-goal: To avoid the other’s suffering.
Goal: To change/save someone emotionally fragile, violent, and not emotionally available.
Self: Altruistic self.
Other: problematic/fragile partner. |
Deontological factor | Anti-goal: To avoid losing one’s own dignity/value/self-esteem.
Goal: To feel worthy or to retrieve one’s own value lost during the dysfunctional relationship with a denigrating, humiliating, and insulting partner.
Self: Deontological self.
Other: Humiliating partner. |
Vulnerability factor | Anti-Goal: To avoid feeling unsafe and alone.
Goal: To feel secure, attached safe, and protected or retrieve one’s own sense of security lost during the relationship with an abusive, physically and sexually abusive partner.
Self: Vulnerable/traumatic self.
Other: Emotionally unavailable/abusing partner. |
Conflict factor | Absent
Alternate
Akrasic |